This isn’t always true in either case. When it comes to sex, men and women are different creatures, but even within their own gender. Certain men and women are not sexually compatible for a number of reasons, but sometimes it can be the result of misinformation and a boatload of popular myths about sex. Let’s explore and debunk.
Myth 1: Men Experience More Sexual Urges Than Women
False. Sitcoms and magazines will have you believe that men are ready to get it on all the time every day, and women are the fickle creatures who require a good deal of wooing and coaxing to be led into bed. Studies even show that in reality, men’s libidos fluctuate just as often as women’s, and wooing a man can lead to a night of more fulfilling intimacy than either would have experienced.
Sexual drive has less to do with gender and much more do to with a variety of factors including sleep, diet, relationship stability and partner compatibility.
Myth 2: Size Matters
Most — even mildly sexually experienced partners — should know that sexual enthusiasm, creativity, experience, and communication are far more important than a man’s size. The key to a good sex life is a composite package deal, including maintaining emotional chemistry and communicating in bed. Luckily, the Internet is littered with helpful tips on how to communicate with your lover, and finding out what you want.
Myth 3: Great Lovers are Great at Loving Everyone
This one is necessarily a myth for a few reasons. Firstly, there are no universal sex tricks that work for every woman. All women are different, and pleasing a particular woman takes practice and communication in all cases. Some women can reach orgasm just by thinking about it, while others require a good deal of custom-fit foreplay and fantasizing.
Myth 4: Sex Comes Naturally
This is half true— there will certainly be women with whom you will have absolute magnetic sexual chemistry, but there is always more to learn. If you are not compatible at first, don’t lost hope. Chemistry can be created by really listening to your partner, experimenting, and learning what works. You may know one or two things that really work for you, but there are probably a hundred others that you haven’t even tried yet. So open up, try some things that make you both a little uncomfortable; and in the worst case scenario, you can laugh it off.
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